How To Make Dating Easy

When dating some people are usually put off by the stress that goes along with dating; the stress of not knowing if the person will like them and/or if they will like the person. The expectations of dating are sometimes unrealistic because people tend to look for someone to fit their idea of “the one.” In most real life situations people do not live up to the ideas or expectations that others hold about “the one.” I believe the goal of dating should be to find compatibility in as many areas of a love relationship as possible or a find a possible match.

How To Prepare For A Date

Everyone wants to make a great first impression on a date; people are generally concern about what to do, where to go, what to wear, how to look, what to say, how to act, and the list goes on. But how do a person really prepare for a date? Well I believe the first preparation should be a mental one. A person should assess hi s or her mindset to evaluate if there are any emotions, feelings, attitudes, or thoughts that may negatively impact a date. I believe if you prepare for a date with good intentions and a clear state of mind, then the what, where, and how of a date will easily come to mind.

How To Get Your Prays In The Spirit Answered

Generally people pray the most in the mists of tragedy or negative life events. Some people begin to doubt if what they pray for would come to past based on their current situation or circumstance; their present negative reality, whatever it maybe, can over shadow the possibility of a positive outcome. Within religious teachings, it is taught that when you pray you must fully believe; if you do not fully believe then your prayers will not be answers. This is more or less true, you must believe to the extent that you actually feel as though what you pray for has already come to past.

How To Live Life On Purpose

I often wonder how many people actually contemplate the purpose of their individual life. Do they ask themselves question such as, am I living my life with purpose? Am I fulfilling my purpose in life? What is my purpose in life? Or, how do I know what my purpose is in life. I believe living life with a purpose is living a fulfilling life. Questioning the existence of life is one of the many doors which lead to the thought of why are we here and what is life’s meaning. 

How To Feel Good Inside Out

Feeling good entails happiness, joy, peace, and love, which is want we spend our lives trying to find or attain. In the pursuit of happiness, there is a misguided perception that feeling good stems from outward things such as money, sex, career, looks, popularity, and relationships. In reality, outward things that make a person feel good stems from the events that are happening, which causes temporary happiness; in the absence of the events happening, happiness is gone. In order to feel good one must grasp the concept that feeling good is a state of mind.

How Subliminal Messages Made It To The Forefront Of The Media

Originally in the 50’s subliminal messages were perceive as negative and those in authority first seek to ban the technique from advertizing; today over 50 years later, without subliminal messages it is difficult if not impossible to generate an audience or gain public attention in the media. I assume somewhere in the middle, while those involved in the controversy of subliminal messages argued back and forth about the insignificance and the significance of subliminal messages, the advancement of subliminal messages in the media was also taking place. Subliminal messages are now revealed in the forefront of the media, while the controversy surrounding subliminal messages continue.

How to Deal With Negative People

Because we cannot always choose the people we wish to be surrounded by, we sometimes have to deal with negative people. There is an old saying misery loves company. This has been proven to be true time and time again when surrounded by those who tend to see the bad or have a negative outlook on life. No matter how anyone may try there is no pleasing a negative person; they tend to complain about even the insignificant things in life. Negative people try their best to make everyone around them as miserable as they are; some even get pleasure from witnessing the misery of others. From experience, when dealing with negative people, keep in mind no one should have the power over you to control the directions of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

How Important Is Wisdom In Comparison and Connection To Knowledge

I am always amazed when I meet a successful or wealthy scholar, entrepreneur, philosopher or those who consider themselves, and are consider by others, as intellectual thinkers but lack simple wisdom such as human decency. Some knowledgeable or intellectual people can be intolerable of others, arrogant, rude, obnoxious, selfish, greedy, controlling, and self consumed. I believe this reflects a lack of wisdom; a person’s inability to be considerate of others regardless of their class, sex, race, and status, reflects a lack of understanding about the power of thought and the oneness of the Universe (the word God maybe used to  describe the oneness of the universe). Wise people understand that we all connect to one energy power (God) source that is infinite and limitless.     

If There Is A God, Where Is God?

 If there is a God why are people suffering in the world? If there is a God why do good or innocent people die? If there is God why do bad people succeed? If there is a God why do natural disasters kill? These are the questions asked when looking for evidence of a good God. On the other end of the spectrum is, there is a God in the nature surrounding us; there is a God in the miracles of birth and healing; there is a God in the survival of encountering death; there is a God when the unexpected happens These are the statements made when acknowledging there is a God. Some people believe in God, some people believe there is no such thing as God. Either way the unknown element known as energy or what I think most refer to as God, does exist everywhere and is in every living thing.

The Flaws of Human Nature

I believe we are complex and fickle being, no two people exactly alike. Our physiological responses to our interpretation of emotions, perceptions, and life events, require us to walk a thin line in terms of how we behave and interact with one another. It is natural for us to relate to what is familiar to us; it is how we create our sense of identity and belonging. Our flaws are not accepting each other differences when we cannot relate or do not understand one another. We also struggle to believe what we cannot see for which the mind eye is neglected in the interpretation of emotions, perceptions, and life events. 

The Purpose of Life Changes

Why is change important? Well without change there will be no progress, without progress there will be no movement, without movement there will be no growth, without growth there will be no development, without development there will be no events, without event there will be no time, without time there will be no space, without time and space there will no existence. Despite the importance of change we cannot help but resist change. Why is that? Well we are far removed from our natural purpose in life which includes my reference of the l’s of life; to live, to love, and to learn. Rather we live in a materialistic world, in a society where we are defined by career, status, class, sex, race, and age. We spend our lives trying to live up to the standards of society while losing focus on the purpose of life changes in our individual lives.

How To Create or Develop Healthy Habits

Naturally we are creates of habits, we have the tendency to act simply out of habit. Habits are present in culture and religion through rituals and practices. Habits are also present in personality traits through attitudes and behaviors. Our habits can act as comfort zones, for example, a person can express discomfort in doing something one way simply because it feels  comfortable doing it his or her way. Our habits can also give a false sense of stability, for example, some people have their early morning routine of drinking coffee or smoking while reading the newspaper, without their morning routine they may experience a disruption in their morning. Part of life is learning how to make and break habits rather than letting our habits make and break us. We can do so by recognizing habits for what they really are, forms of adaptation; it is one of the ways we adapt in life. 

How to Relieve Stress - Adapting The Habit to Faking It Until You Can Make It

The wise ones or the older generation have a saying, fake it until you can make it, this statement could not be closer to the truth when dealing with stress. Stress is design to serve as a survival instinct; in the face of danger stress acts as an indication to take action in order to eliminate the problem. This is where it gets complicated because we cannot eliminate every problem in our lives, problems also serve a purpose, they are life vital learning lessons. Learning how to coexist with stress is a challenge we all face because life is an ongoing learning lesson. Sometimes life can knock the hope right out of us through devastating event in our lives, in extreme cases people experience nervous breakdowns and others commit suicide. The physiological effects of stress can be detrimental to our well-being, but in actuality it is our inability to coexist with stress that causes the physiological effects of stress. So how do we coexist with stress?  Well we can simply fake until we can make it in order to relieve stress.

The Power of Human of Energy

No one really knows exactly what energy is but it is known that energy exists because without energy life simply would not exist. There are many forms of energy, but the most mentioned forms discussed in academic and scientific studies are kinetic, potential, and radiant energy. Historically, the concept of energy derived from the idea of a living force, the energy force that is responsible for the activity of matter. When people think about energy they most think about the types of energy commonly utilized, such as gas, fuel, electricity, solar, and mechanical energy. When I think of energy I think of the human energy system particularly the energy forces that activate emotions. I believe emotions are survival instincts, for example, stress particularly fear initially served as a survival instinct for protection.   

The Power of Perception

Perception is the process by which we interpret or perceive information including our life experiences from birth to present. How we perceive or view our internal and external worlds is based on the reflection of our perception. I learned a story about perception while taking a CPR class. Apparently an EMS technician was sued for choking a patient by the patient’s love one. Of course there were no grounds for a lawsuit; however, as a result, when taking patients’ neck pulse it is best to take it on the side closet to you because of the power of perception. I conclude that in a state of panic our perception is vulnerable and our minds can play tricks on us.    

How Thoughts Become Reality

After watching the movie The Secret, some in society concluded that if a person thought hard enough he or she could magically manifest whatever he or she wanted into reality. This may not have been the intention of The Secret movie makers, but considering human nature to perceive what we see based on what we know, there is room for multiple interpretations of the movie. If a person has little to no knowledge about the connections and relationships between the mind, spirit (energy), body, and the universe, it would be difficult to grasp the concept of The Secret in its entirety. Thoughts do manifest into reality, but awareness, discipline, action, courage, motivation, love, joy, spirituality, and health are some of the required elements of thought. The elements of thought are essential in creating a healthy and balance state of mind to enable positive thoughts to manifest or become reality.

The Power of Thought

A common quote from the bible associated with the power of thought is “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” The power of thought has been illustrated in miracles of healing, as a result, physicians today have a clearer understanding of the importance of positive thinking during the recovery stages of their patients. Physicians now recognized the success or outcome of treatments also depends on the mindset of their patients. What we think about ourselves and others directly and indirectly impact our lives, our thoughts can manifest into our reality. It is important to understand the power of thought including what thoughts are prominent in our minds and are those thoughts positive or negative.

How to Stop Worrying

Worrying is a human condition, as a result we have the tendency to worry about life rather than living life. We worry about the pass, the future, ourselves, and what people think about us. Worrying is also our interpretation of life circumstances and situations. When faced with problems we either view our problems as defeats, in turn, we become overwhelmed with thoughts of everything that could go wrong; or we view our problems for what they really are a part of life when stuff happens. Worrying should be replaced with concern; we should be concern about our problems rather than worry, concern tends to propel us to act or take action. When face with problems where there are no actions to take, then let the inevitable happen and it too shall pass.

The Therapy Of Talking To Others

The study of psychology has been treated with skepticism due to the limits of scientific evidence based on practical observation. In other words, it is impossible to look inside the brain and directly observation how the brain works or to know what someone is thinking. To get the recognition psychology has acquired today (Dr. Phil Talk Show), did take some time due to the division within the study of psychology. Research psychologists were trying to develop the one theory that was most effective in explaining human behavior, brain function, and thought processes.  After further review psychologists began to connect the dots, in turn seeing the bigger picture. Psychologists now understand psychology is a collective study of multiple theories and no one theory can fully explain human behavior.

The Meaning of Racism

Racism is commonly defined as the division of humanity based on biological, ethnic, and cultural differences in order to create a position of superiority for one race and a position of inferiority for other races.  Despite the lack of scientific evidence of biological differences indicating human superiority and inferiority, racism is imbedded into societies’ culture. To be blunt I believe racism like sexism, ageism, class-ism, species-ism and every other type of prejudice is a form of primitive thinking. To hate someone simply because of their physical features is in my opinion simple thinking. However, simple thinking has resulted in a huge shift within society as a whole.

How to Forgive Yourself and Others

Have you ever thought about a moment in your life where you did wrong to someone or someone did wrong to you? A moment that every time you think about it you feel deeply bad about yourself or deeply angry towards someone, these are thoughts of un-forgiveness. Not being able to forgive yourself and others is harmful to only one person, and that person is you. It is difficult to forgive if you do not grasp the concept of un-forgiveness. Un-forgiveness is a one way street because it only affects the person directing un-forgiveness towards his or her self or others. I believe fully understanding that the effects of un-forgiveness are self inflicting or self sabotaging is the key to forgiving yourself and others.

Logical Thinking - Is It Good or Bad?

Jean Piaget, one of the many founders of psychology identified the threshold of logical thinking in the third stages of cognitive development. At the concrete operational stage, Piaget observed that logical thinking become evident in a child’s ability to use appropriate logic. Logic is characterized by ideas, concepts, facts, judgment, reasoning, and conclusion, and is one of the fundamentals of human intelligence. I like to describe logic as a step by step analysis of problems from an objective point of view.  Highly logical thinkers are significantly smart and possess impressive decision making skills and problem solving skills such as learning mathematics. It is well known people that practice logical thinking can also become smarter.  At the same time, logical thinking has its limits based on the structural requirements, exclusion of emotional intelligence, and generalization.  

Society’s Obsession with Sex

 “Sex sells” is an expression in the business marketing world, and rightfully so; the pornography industry is one of the top most lucrative businesses in the world. Sex is a natural desire and behavior; it is how we are all born into creation and how we will continue to populate the world. However, along with society’s obsession with beauty, weight, and health, the obsession with sex has made yet another headline in the news. This time the sports world has entered the sex story arena with a “first male athlete” sexual orientation story which will be the buzz for however long it takes for the next breaking story to surface. As human beings what is it about sex that draws so much of our attention. Is it because sex is suppose to be private, so naturally we would be curious about others, and when we do find out the media would not stop discussing it?

Love Relationships

At one point I thought I could write poetry so I did, I wrote a poetry entitled Love. I was quiet proud of myself, I even nicknamed myself Lyrical One. In reality it was not a very good poem, but at that time I thought it was. Now looking back, I actually think it was funny. The poem was about human love relationships and divine love relationships. In human relationships I defended love by pointing out the errors of human nature. In divine love relationships I pointed out the unconditional love from within.

Developing Healthy Love Relationships Through Self Love

Healthy relationships stems from healthy minded individuals. Most may or may not agree that failed relationships are caused by both individuals involved. In failed relationships people often blame one another for the problems they experienced together. When people talk about their failed relationships it is less often you hear someone say ‘I was the problem,” but more often “he or she was the problem.” I am going to be bold and say failed relationships are a result of lack of self love. People sometimes stay in relationships waiting for the other person to love them and hoping that person would change. The reality is the person you should expect to love you the way you want to be love, is you. When you love yourself you will not let others mistreat you because you understand your self worth.

The Powerful Effect of Music

Music can change your emotions, create life memorable moments and make you remember those moments. Music is one of the many artistic expressions of life. In movies the sound effects used to evoke emotions of love, romance, fear, suspense and even hate is music.

There are stories where people experience changes in habit, likes and dislikes after having heart transplant surgery, music was one of the likes and dislike. There is a story about a man after having a heart transplant he noticed his love for a different genre of music. He later found out later that the same music he now likes were his heart donor’s favorite music. That tells me that music is in our minds, spirits (including soul and heart), and physiological make up (MSP).

Cpoing With Life and Death

Despite his mental challenges philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche believed it is illogical to fear death and not birth (life). He recognized the fear or uncertainty of not knowing what type of life a person can be born into is equally frightening as death itself.

People generally do not think or talk about death because death is associated with negative emotions. Death can appear to be a villain that steals and destroy lives in the blink of an eye. Unexpected death strikes harder because in most cases it is a result of a tragic event. Tragic death can leave survivors of lost love ones mentally cripple from anger and/or grief.

Life and Adversity

Life adversities can be viewed as bumps or mountains along the road of life journey. I believe with a positive perspective adversities are meant to make us stronger, the bigger the adversity the stronger we can become. As far fetch as this may seem when facing advertise such as not having money, losing a car and home, losing a love one, or being diagnose with a terminal disease, it is not impossible to overcome adversities.

Conquering Your Fear

How to conquer your fears?  That is a question I am living out the answer to. I am learning how to take back control of my perception of God’s presence or divine energy within me. The same energy that is in you and every other moving, living and growing being, which collectively make up this vast universe we live in. It is important to understand, become aware, and acknowledge the energy or metaphysical forces within and around us, in order to conquer our fears.