Relationships

How Do I Know If Someone Really Loves Me?

Simply asking the question does he or she love me is an indication that he or she probably does not. I think if a person has to question the love of someone that he or she is building a love relationship with, the answer in most cases would be no. I say this because love connections are clear or transparent; a person’s actions, attitudes, and words clearly reflect the love he or she has for another person. There should be no wondering if a person loves you, you should be able to feel the love that person has for you.

In love relationships, a person’s actions, attitudes, and words clearly demonstrates his or her love for another person. A person’s action should measure up to his or her attitudes and words, in turn; I believe words without actions are empty promises. So if you find yourself waiting by the phone, being stood up, alone most of the time while in a relationship (not including long distance relationship, that’s another topic), seeing each other only during frequent 2:00am calls, being lie to and cheated on, being emotionally or physically abused or in any other negative situation that causes you to ask how do I know If he or she really loves me, then he or she probably does not love you.    

Generally when someone loves you their actions, attitudes, and words allows you feel loved, you cannot help but feel the love being directed towards you. Because of the manner in which you are treated, it is not only obvious to you, but to everyone around you, that the person you are in a love relationship with loves you. When you have a real love connection the love is obvious you know and feel you are being loved.

If you have to analyzed every step of the relationship trying to figure out if someone loves or not, then the answer is probably no. Some people connect immediately, other connect later on, some later than others. Nevertheless, when two wholesome people make a love connection, neither one of them spends time trying to figure out if they are being loved because their love is transparent. Their actions, attitudes, and words towards one another clearly demonstrate their love for one another; rather they spend time loving each other.   
  
Should Exes Get Back Into Love Relationships With Each Other?

Couples breakup and make up all the time, some more than others. However, everyone has a breaking point for which couples decide to end their love relationships and move on. But for whatever the reason, changes occur and some exes try to reignite their relationships years after breaking up, only to repeat the path of their past failed relationship. Keep in mind this is not always the case, some exes successfully reunite even on the tenth try. But in most cases people break up for a reason and that reason never goes away, it becomes history.

Exes share both memorable and unmemorable memories which becomes part of the history of their relationship. I think whether or not exes should get back together largely depends on their relationship history and the occurrence of change. History sometimes has a way of repeating itself or getting in the way. When exes decide to get back together, two things can happen when unmemorable memories are active, either exes encounter the same problems they did in the past or they cannot move beyond their unmemorable past. Active unmemorable memories can evoke the negative emotions associated with the experiences; in turn exes may experience the feelings of reliving the past when interacting with each other again. However, there are those instances where exes significantly change and their unmemorable memories become insignificant; when memorable memories are active exes have a better chance of successfully reuniting.  

When contemplating whether you should get back with an ex, think about the reason(s) why you broke up and how relevant the reason(s) is to reconnecting the relationship. Life changes create the possibility and impossibility of exes successfully getting back together, as a result, it is essential to evaluate the direction of changes if any, including how you have change, how your ex have change, and how the situation or circumstance have change.

Igniting old flames is a decision exes may consider, but because of the history of their relationships it can be complicated or it can be simple, either way the relationship can be successful or unsuccessful.  Many high school or college sweet hearts reunite later in life, some end up getting married and others do not work out. Some exes remain friends and after years of just being friends they reunite, some end up getting married and others do not work out. The chances of exes successfully getting back together weighs on the history of the relationship and the changes that did or did not occur.

Why Do Men and Women Cheat

Men and women cheat for a multitude of reasons, however, there are two main underlying reasons associated with cheating; one is to fulfill a sexual desire or need and two is to fulfill an emotional desire or need. Generally men are known to cheat to fulfill a sexual desire and women are known to cheat to fulfill an emotional desire, but it can also be vice versa. Committing to one person for a lifetime seems to be a problem or challenge for human sexual and emotional nature. In some cultures or religions arranged marriage is implemented and can counteract the results of cheating, for which the divorce rate is significantly higher in conventional marriage when compared to arranged marriage. 

People become dissatisfy in their love relationships for whatever reason and they begin to seek fulfillment outside their significant other. Cheating is more accessible today through the internet; there are actual dating sites for married men and women seeking fulfillment outside their marriage. Being able to cheat at a touch of the finger tips leaves little room for self restraint. Some couples have converted to what is called an open relationship; an open relationship allows couples to commit to each other in every way but sexually.

Today some women are under the impression that all men cheat, and some men are under the impression that all women cheat. It would be nice if cheaters dated cheaters and non-cheaters dated non-cheaters. Unfortunately life is not that simple and human nature is too complicated. With cheating being accessible as it is, men and women can cheat openly at will. The sad thing is people that consistently cheat are unhappy with themselves so they spend their lives seeking others to fulfill their sexual and emotion desires or needs which usually are short lived; in turn, they never really find pure happiness for them self. 

How To Keep The Romance And Passion In Your Love Relationship

In love relationships some people express what I like to call the sweet heartache of love; it is the racing beat of the heart, the butterflies or flutters in the stomach, or the wondering thoughts that make the mind daydream. Holding on to the initial emotions of feeling truly, madly and deeply in love is a challenge most couples face. As time progress or changes occur, couples ability to withstand life changes together is compromised by the predictability of familiarity. Familiarity is practice through the act of dating, the stage of having fun while getting to know a person. The catch is familiarity cannot stop or become stagnant, there must be room for new life experiences for love relationships to grow; in turn, couples should not stop dating in order to keep the romance and passion in their love relationship fresh.

The Key of Dating 
   
The key is to never stop what started a love relationship, in order to stay on top the demands of life.  As the reality of life begins to settle in, couples have a tendency to get comfortable or familiar with each other. Couples may often no longer work towards impressing one another. They may begin a family which takes additional time away from their love relationship; they no longer have the time or the energy to put into their relationship. With that said, it is crucial to take the time and make the effort to sustain love. To do so couples should never stop dating, including the activities of romance and passion that goes along with dating. 

The Goal of Dating

The goal is to keep the excitement, romance, passion, and spontaneity active in love relationships. Never assume that you totally know the person you are with, always keep in mind that different aspects of that person will change while you are together. Overtime, a person has new life changing experiences, both good and bad. Dating will enable couples to keep up with the individual changes that are occurring and impacting their love relationship. Couples should make dating a fun priority or required quality time spent together as couple. Spending time together could be simple as a scented candle light bubble bath to elaborate as a Caribbean cruise.

Conclusion

The mistake most people make is believing love will conquer all, which is partly true; the whole truth is love can conquer all when sustained. Love relationships require hard work considering the changes people go through in their lifetime. Withstanding the changes of growing together as a couple is the biggest challenge of love relationships. In order for couples to keep their love relationship fresh, dating should be implemented as a fun priority; it is crucial that couples take the time and make the effort to keep romance and passion in their love relationships through dating.